Saturday, 18 November 2017


Here is an interesting quote from Nikola Tesla:

"Anti-social behaviour is a trait of intelligence in a world full of conformists."- Nikola Tesla

Is this true? What is he saying in this quote?

First of all, and you must remember this, all of you reading this post, introverts and extroverts alike, introverts are NOT anti-social. How dare you for even think that? Introverts just recharge in a different way to most other people.

I think what Tesla is saying in this quote is that sometimes you have to disappear to get things done.

You will find that in history, the people who have changed the world and I am thinking Steve Jobs when I write that weren't conformists. They had to go against society. They had to go against what 'the herd' believed in. They had to shut themselves off from those nasty comments and queries about why you are doing such a thing and just get it done because of the vision in their head.

So, if you want to get something done, you have to disappear. You have to be anti-social, whatever that means. (I still think anti-social is a term made up by extroverts to call people who won't go and have a drink with them.)

Cutting yourself off from society shows that you are committed to what you are doing. You are going to give 110% and you are going to win or die trying.

Conformists usually don't try. They just go along with the flow.

Is that what Tesla is saying in the quote? What do you think?

Friday, 17 November 2017


Regular readers will notice that I haven't been posting as much regularly. This is because I have been really busy with my regular job and to be quite honest, when I get home after 9pm on most nights, the last thing I want to do is sit down and try and be creative, especially when I need to me up and about at 5am the next morning.

This is just a bad excuse of course as we all have 24 hours in a day or 1,440 minutes and if I was better organised then it shouldn't be a problem to write daily.

The secret is, is to organise your time better. i.e. have better time management skills and also have the discipline to do what you say you are going to do.

Thursday, 9 November 2017

Visualisation with Jim Carrey

Some of you might think that Jim Carrey is just a movie actor who acts in those slapstick movies and does crazy things with his face.

Here is a list of some of his movies:

  • Ace Ventura: Pet Detective
  • Dumb and Dumber
  • Liar Liar
  • The Truman Show
  • Man on the Moon
  • Bruce Almighty
  • Yes Man
It would be fair when you look at that list to say that, yep he is a slapstick movie actor although in saying that The Truman Show couldn't be categorised as a slapstick movie. Man on the Moon as well although I don't know that movie as well as the other ones. 

There is another side to Jim Carrey though as you can see with the video above. He is really into visualisation. Believe me it does work as long (and Jim says it) as you do the work. 

What I suggest is to do what Jim did and make visualisation a part of your routine. Hell, why not put a cheque for $10 million in your wallet? What is the worst that can happen?

Wednesday, 8 November 2017


This post is for young people.

I have a question for you. Lets say that money is not a concern and if you had a a choice, would you stay in a hostel while you were traveling or would stay in a hotel?

What does you answer say about you?

Do you want to be alone or do you want to meet people easily?

Let me ask you again:




Tuesday, 7 November 2017

What I learned walking up and down a hill

Yesterday, I went to Mount Takao which is on the outskirts of Tokyo. It is a very popular tourist destination as you can access it within one hour from central Tokyo and it is a nice natural setting.

It was the first time that I have ever been there and because it was the last day of a three day weekend it was jammed pack with people.

There are two ways to go up the mountain, one is by cable car and the other one is to walk up it along a sealed road. We chose the sealed road. (I remember my geography teacher a high school saying that to get to Machu Picchu in Peru, you can either take a three hour train journey or you can hike for two days. He said that you will always remember it if you hiked.)

There were many people "climbing" it yesterday. It felt like a pilgrimage. At some stages it felt like I couldn't get to the top because of an injury I sustained the day before but we finally managed to get to the top or the shrine, anyway.

After taking a few photos, we decided to walk down again and the only way we could do it is go down the same way we went up. A little bit of the way down I found another way down to a waterfall. We decided to go, to escape the crowds more than anything else.

We walked down this very steep path. There was hardly anyone around us and it felt like we had the place to ourselves. (I secretly wondered if we were going to run into some monkeys or wild boar.)

About 20 minutes down the track we met someone else who was climbing back up the path. She said that the waterfall was nothing much and it was a waste of energy. We thought about going back up but that would mean that we would get tired very quickly. We continued down the track and finally saw the waterfall. She was right, it was nothing much. We decided to continue down the path some more and we finally made it to the bottom of the mountain.

We continued on a path following a river and then made it to the train station where we wanted to go.

The river was nice and the path along the river was really nice too. It really made a good afternoon.

I hope you enjoyed my recollection of my Sunday walk. The reason I am talking about it is that sometimes in life we have a decision to make. Which way do we go? Do we follow the herd or do we trust our intuition and go our own path?

It is easy to go the way that 99% of people  are going because you risk the chance of ridicule if it doesn't go to plan. You risk being ostracised and that isn't a nice feeling and you also run the risk of utter humiliation.

However if you stay firm and stay with your convictions then what you re doing the naysayers will turn around and wonder about what you are doing.

Just make that one difficult decision and things will change. Trust me on that.

Saturday, 4 November 2017


Here is an interesting quote from the patron saint of introverts worldwide, Susan Cain:

"Introverts focus on the meaning they make of the events swirling around them; extroverts plunge into the events themselves. Introverts recharge their batteries by being alone; extroverts need to recharge when they don't socialise enough." - Susan Cain

It is true that extroverts do plunge into events. They love it. It really gives them a buzz.

Sometimes as an introvert we have to get out of our heads and plunge into it like the extroverts of this world.

Sir Richard Branson didn't really know what he was doing when he started Virgin but he dived in and now look at what he has. He runs his company(ies) from his own island in the Caribbean. Not bad I say.

We all have to jump in on occasions.

Let me show you how to do it.

Friday, 3 November 2017

Stand out: Be like Marouane Fellaini

I don't follow the English Premier League as much as I used to. In fact at the time of writing this I wouldn't know which team is on top of the table.

Hmmm, lets look it up. I see, the two Manchester teams are top of the tree. I didn't know that.

I used to watch a lot of the Premier League on television and I was familiar with a lot of the players. Now, I wouldn't have a clue. Apparently, Wayne Rooney is back at his boyhood club, Everton. (Arsenal supporters might want to turn away for a few minutes.)

Of the players I do know in the EPL, one of them plays for Manchester United and his name is Marouane Fellaini. He is a Belgian player and has played for the Red Devils since 2013.

How do I know this?

Well, I won't lie, Wikipedia does help here. It helps a lot. Special mention  to Mr. Google too.

Seriously, how do I know Marouane Fellaini? It is because of his distinctive hairstyle. His afro.

I don't much about Fellaini's footballing ability but I'm guessing that since he plays for Manchester United he must have some skills.

Would I know his name if he didn't have his afro? The answer is no. His hairstyle makes him stand out, well at least for me, a returning EPL fan.

He could shave his afro off and I probably wouldn't remember him or even know his name.

My point in this post is that sometimes you have to do something that stands out. You don't have to grow an afro like Marouane Fellaini but it could be something distinctive that you wear. There is a strategy in the seduction community called peacocking.

According to Wikitionary, peacocking is "Ostentatious dress or behaviour employed by a man in an attempt to impress women."

OK, you could use peacocking for that but you could also it to stand out. To be remembered.

Sometimes in life you need to step out of your shell on occasions. It is all very well being in your comfort zone but when push comes to shove you have to step out and risk the chance of ridicule. You have to risk being judged by your peers but if you are fully committed to it. If you are all about your purpose and vision then it shouldn't matter what people think. They are just showing their insecurities and fears.

Be prepared to stand out. Be prepared to be ridiculed and at the end of the day, be prepared to succeed in life.

Right, I'm off to the pub. I see Manchester United is playing Chelsea this weekend. I see crosstown rival, Manchester City also have a big game against Arsenal. The All Blacks are playing this weekend too. Oh the dilemma. First world problems indeed.