Thursday, 29 June 2017

ABSOLUTELY NO REGRETS

Here is a very interesting article about the ten regrets you don't want to have in ten years time.

Below I have given you my take on the ten regrets:

1. Not taking action on meaningful goals

"Procrastination is the thief of time" the proverb goes. I'm sure most of us have goals or dreams or something similar. However, not many of us actually do anything about them because life gets in the way. 

For some people, they have to pay the bills so they go to a 9 to 5. For some people, the latest episode of 'Game of Thrones' is much more important. (I'm probably alienating a whole bunch of readers with that statement.) For other people, they have children to look after. 

For some people the fear of failure is stronger than the motivation to do anything about their goals. 

For me, I'm procrastinating on writing a book. 

Why?

Because I'm frightened of the people ripping my book a new one on the Amazon review section.

Isn't that ridiculous? I haven't even written one word and I'm worried about that already.

2. Letting others create your dreams for you

There is going to be undoubtedly pressure from your friends, family and society in general to conform to what they believe because it is inside their comfort zones. If you start letting their thoughts and feelings control your thoughts and feelings then you are going to have some trouble getting what you want to say and do across.

You need to start living in a way that fits with who you are not what other people think is best for you even though their intentions may well be good.

3. Spending too little time with the right people

You need to spend time with people who inspire you. You need to spend time with people who challenge you. You need to spend time with people who educate you. You need to spend time with people who entertain you in a productive way. (Does that make sense? You are learning but having a good time at the same time. You are not just talking about what he said and she said and what would happen if everyone did this or that.)

The other day I was having a couple of beers with my mate. He had just been to a business seminar and he asked me a couple of questions from that seminar. It was really interesting and got me thinking. 

Not your typical drunken conversation, right?

They say that you are the average of the five people you hang out with the most. Make sure those five people really challenge you.

4. Staying in a toxic relationship for too long

You absolutely need to cut people out of your life who really drag you down. The people who really drain you of your energy and who use you. I'm sure most of you have had someone like that in your lifetime.

I have had that experience and it wasn't fun. Well it was, until I realised what actually was going on. It was not leaving me feeling very good about myself. 

I was thinking about another friend who I haven't seen for a long time and when I think why, that particular friend was very negative about a lot of things and subconsciously I moved away. I haven't talked to this person for many years.

5. Settling for less than you're capable of

I think settling is the worst possible thing to do in any facet of your life. 

You settle for a job that you are not really 100% into but it pays the bills and before long, you think, "Shit! Where is all the time going?"

You settle for someone who doesn't knock your socks off. Why did you marry him or her? Just because you are 33 years old and society thought that you better get married.

Why did you settle for your hobbies? Did peers, pressure you into doing those things OR not doing those things?

Do what you want mate. If it works for you do it. Who cares what other people think.

6. Letting impatience dominate your decisions and actions

There are some times when the words "Oh, fuck it! Lets do it" are an appropriate response. There are other times where that response is not so good. You have to decide when that time is. 

Sometimes you have to think about it a lot. Go through the pros and cons. Other times you have to dive in.

7. Collecting more excuses than you can count

As you know, I do Crossfit. I can do some of the movements quite well, others I am useless at. That is Crossfit though, there is always some things that you are going to have to work on.

Rich Froning, the Michael Jordan of Crossfit found out at one Crossfit Games that his swimming wasn't very good. He went away and become quite proficient at swimming. If he had made excuses about swimming he wouldn't have got anywhere.

I make excuses in my mind about some of the movements in Crossfit which is not good at all. 

"I can't snatch because it is too difficult to do."

"I can't do a burpee because my legs are too long."

"I can't do a pull up because I have never been strong in the upper body."

I can't, I can't, I can't. Blah, blah, blah. Whatever. 

8. Wearing a mask to impress others

Take that mask off this minute. You want to present your real self. Of course, you might want to change a little bit depending on the situation 

Being fake is not good for anyone, especially you.


You can see Phoebe Buffay faking it big time in this video. She was trying to fit in and went way overboard. Of course when she was herself it didn't go over too well either but at least she was authentic.

9. Worrying way to much about stuff that doesn't matter

What's that saying? If you had $86,400 in the bank and someone stole $10, would you vow revenge and destruction on the person who did? (To be honest I would be asking serious questions of the bank about how they managed to lose $10.)

Well, some idiot blocks your way for ten seconds, why do we spend the rest of the day planning that person's demise?

10. Avoiding change and growth

We can never stop learning. We can never stop educating ourselves. Education doesn't finish when you walk out of school for the last time. You are not even half-way through when you walk out of that school.

Continue to educate yourself. Continue to read. Continue to watch education videos. At the very least, it keeps your mind going and stops you from getting those nasty things. (Well, that is what some people say anyway.)

Imagine if your GP didn't read any of the latest journal articles or attend seminars or anything like that. You would have every right to ask some questions. 


A wise man said to me a few years ago that you should never regret anything because at the time you made that decision it was the best decision that you could have made at the time.

Live a life of no regrets. 

Wednesday, 28 June 2017

Is it a fine line between confidence and arrogance?

They say that there is a real fine line between confidence and arrogance or cockiness. They are probably right as for some people the particular person is confident while for some other people they might come across as being arrogant.

"Beauty is in the eye of the beholder" as they say.

I want you watch the following video and tell me what you think. Is it confidence or arrogance?


If you thought the same thing as me then you are probably thinking that this guy needs an almighty slap or a punch in the head which is what he got funnily enough.

Did he cross the line?

Of course he did and in fact he was so far passed it that he made himself look like a complete an utter idiot in the process


As you begin your journey, you are going to find that you are going to grow better and better and become more confident but don't forget to remain humble. You are not and never will be god's gift to everyone.

Nobody likes a cocky so and so. Remember that and you will go far.

Tuesday, 27 June 2017

"The America's Cup is now New Zealand's Cup."

I'm going to change the subject of the blog today.

It is a great day to be a Kiwi sporting fan today.

Why is that, I hear you ask?

Well, let Peter Montgomery, "The Voice of the America's Cup" tell you why.


"The America's Cup is now New Zealand's Cup. And for only the second time in 144 years, the most illustrious and elusive of prizes in sailing. International sport's oldest prize leaves the United States. This time to a different Down Under, NEW ZEALAND."

Well, ladies and gentlemen, that was in 1995 when Team New Zealand, lead by the late Sir Peter Blake and Sir Russell Coutts won the America's Cup off the coast of San Diego in California, United States of America.

Today it happened again. 14 years after losing the America's Cup to a Swiss entrant, Alinghi, Team New Zealand regained the America's Cup by beating Oracle Team USA by 7 races to 1.

Most New Zealanders are not yachting fans per se but when the America's Cup in on the line, we all become sailing experts and nationalism comes to the fore.

Why not? Kiwis love their sport and to win something as prestigious as the America's Cup deserves that the usually reserved Kiwis come out of their shells and really show their support.

Well, done Team New Zealand. Congratulations. We look forward to you defending the cup, probably in Auckland in a few years time.

You can watch the win by New Zealand by clicking on the following link: https://www.stuff.co.nz/sport/other-sports/94097057/americas-cup-team-new-zealand-beat-oracle-to-reclaim-auld-mug-in-bermuda

"San Diego 1995 and now Bermuda, 2017. Once again, the America's Cup is New Zealand's Cup. History on the Great Sound Bermuda."

Monday, 26 June 2017

Haters are gonna hate

Haters are gonna hate.

If you make a decision to improve yourself, here is what you should do: Tell everyone that you know.

Do you know why you should do that?

Because then you will find out who is behind you and who wants you to fail. You can recognise the people who want you to fail by the following:

"You won't last."

"You've tried before and you failed big time."

"It's a waste of time. Go back to the couch and watch television."

"Why do you want to do that? Don't you have other better things to do?"

"You will f**k up. You always do."

You definitely find out who your friends are when you say that you want to get better.

At the end of the day the reason that they don't want you to succeed is absolutely nothing to do with you and everything to do with them. The more successful you become and the more noticeable you become, the more you are going to attract weaker people. Unfortunately it is a fact of life and you are going to have to deal with if you make the decision to improve yourself and become successful.

Malcolm Gladwell in his book The Tipping Point says that about 60% of the population have a herd mentality. Herd mentality is when you behaviour is influenced by your peers. The fact that you are even reading this blog post and even the fact that I am writing this is evidence that both you and I are trying to get away from that mentality.

If you are (and I use this word carefully) infected by the herd mentality, you will try to get other people to conform to what you think and what you think is "normal." What is "normal?" Who knows?

In our society, it can be hard to stand out but that is where the rewards are. What do you think would have happened to our world now if Steve Jobs and Bill Gates had listened to the haters? You know that there would have been many haters. There is absolutely no doubt about that.

Why do people not like you trying to improve yourself? Why do they hate?

It's simple. The people who are the haters are miserable. They are probably doing a job they hate. They are probably going home after doing that job and just watching television and going to bed and waking up, yes you guessed it, miserable. They are probably married to someone who doesn't knock their socks off. They are probably overweight and not doing anything about it.

Basically these people don't won't to be reminded that certain areas of their lives (probably all areas of their lives) are in the toilet. When they see you trying to make yourself better they are going to resent you because why? They are going to be left behind and it is easier for them to pull you back to their level rather than join you in trying to reach a higher level.

Everyone want to be successful but not everyone wants to do the work that will get them to that level of success. They are lazy.

The more successful you become the more you are going to have to deal with the haters and the unsupportive people out there.

What can you say to these people?

Well, be happy for the people around you. Don't be envious. Tell them that you are supporting them and they will be very happy to hear it.

Try it. Give them some support.  You might like it and you might want to try to improve yourself. You never know unless you try.

If you improve yourself in one area of your life then that will spill over into other areas of your life and that is when the benefits come and you will certainly see and feel them.

Let me finish the blog post today by quoting life coach Corey Wayne. I think that he sums it all up very well in this quote:

“Everybody wants to be successful, but few people are willing to pay the price and put the time in that is required to become successful. The more successful you become, the more you will attract and draw the scorn of jealous, envious and unsuccessful people. People tend to attack in others either what they lack within themselves, or what other people are connected to on the inside that they are disconnected from within themselves. Unhappy people tend to envy, attack and ridicule happy people; unsuccessful people tend to envy, attack and ridicule successful people, etc. People also tend to project their unhappiness, fear, anger, self-hatred, self-loathing and internal inadequacy’s onto others to feel better about themselves. Successful people are self-reliant, self-motivated and outcome focused. Unsuccessful people blame others for their unhappiness or lack of success in an attempt to absolve themselves from any personal blame or responsibility for their failures, shortcomings and lack of success.” ~ Coach Corey Wayne

Good luck as you and I embark on this journey for a more successful and fulfilling life.

Sunday, 25 June 2017

It's never too late

"For what it's worth: It's never too late to be whoever you want to be. I hope you live a life you're proud of, and if you find that you're not, I hope you have the strength to start over."

- F. Scott Fitzgerald.

When I look at a quote like that, I think of the following guy:


No, not the good looking guy in the centre of the photo wearing his Barkers top. I mean the guy on the left, Colonel Sanders.

Harland David Sanders founded Kentucky Fried Chicken at a late age in life. He had many jobs and formed many businesses before he made it big with KFC.

The lesson we can learn is that, as F. Scott Fitzgerald says in the above quote, it is never too late.

We have this idea in our society that you have to have thus by this age and this by this age and that by that age.

As the Sunscreen song says:

"The most interesting people I know didn't know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives. Some of the most interesting 40-year-olds I know still don't."



If you want to create something, start doing something.

If you want to start a new sport and you are 45 years old, then that is perfectly fine. Who says you have to be 15 to start it?

If you want to change your image, then do it. We have these really bad phrases in out language, "mutton dressed as lamb." Who cares? If you want to wear that then go ahead.

Although, in saying that I do agree with the phrase: "Dress for the body that you have not for the body that you want." However, there is no reason, why you can't work hard for that body that you want. If you do that you will find many benefits.

At the end of the day, just don't be an arrogant bastard which has nothing to do with today's post. I just wanted to show this photo.


Apparently, it is quite a well-known American beer. Sorry, it was the first time for me to see it.

Nobody likes a real arrogant bastard. A confident guy on the other hand is another story. Although there is a real fine line between being arrogant and being confident. Try not to cross it. You will find that if you do, you will open up a whole new can of worms.

Saturday, 24 June 2017

How many can you impact?

Today's message is going to be short and sweet:

When it is all said and done, it's not about how much money you have, (although to be fair, having a lot of it does make life easier because then you have more choices) no, it is about how many lives you have impacted.

Guess what.  If you manage to impact a billion lives for example then I can promise you, you won't be starving.

Yep, it's all about making an impact.

In this post I talked about how a friend of mine joked about me not making an impact at all. For example, we would go to a party and of course little old introverted old me would talk to a few people. One month later, we would go back to the same place, same people and they would be introducing themselves to me again.

I learned to go along with it, rather than embarrass everyone by saying, " oh, we have already met three times before." (By the way, never, ever, ever say as Lester Burnham said in the movie American Beauty, "It's OK. I wouldn't remember me either." Of course by that stage, Lester couldn't give a s**t but you and me definitely give one and we should take pride in who we are.)


Remember, if you wake up every morning (Saturday and Sundays included) and you have a purpose it is going to make that swinging your legs out of bed really, really easy. You can ask yourself:

 "How many people am I going to impact today?"

You can also ask yourself:

"How much better today can I get than yesterday?"

Find your purpose.

Make that impact.

"Impact millions to make your millions" as MJ DeMarco says.

Friday, 23 June 2017

"A girly drink please"

A few years ago I was out with a group and we were at a moderately priced izakaya. I had had a couple of beers and then I decided that I wanted something a little bit different, so I ordered a lime sour. One of the woman in the group mentioned that it was a bit girly to order a lime sour. I was shocked and stunned. How can ordering a lime sour be considered girly especially since I like to drink Mexican beer with lime in the bottle?

I was perplexed.

According to her, men should order beer (the darker the better) and strong 'man-like'drinks. WTF? What does that mean? Apparently if it is sweet, it is not very manly and men should avoid it.

We have some ridiculous "rules" in our society, don't we?

I must admit, I am partial to a good Moscow Mule. The best one I think I have ever had is below. I had this at the Bangalore Tea Room in Wellington, New Zealand. Is this a girly drink? I don't think so. Anything with a whole lime in it must be good in my book.


I came across this article the other day. The sexiest drinks for men to order. I read it with a great deal of interest.

Apparently, if you drink whiskey then you must be a man. But then someone says that if a guy drinks canned beer that's sexy.

At the end of the day, who knows?

I do like one of the comments though, if he orders it with confidence then it doesn't matter.

At the end of the day, it doesn't matter what you order as long as you enjoy it and that is what it is all about.