Thursday, 20 July 2017

Daily RBL Extra: Quote from Bob Marley

Here is a quote from Bob Marley I saw earlier today. It is an interesting one.

" You may not be her first, her last, or her only. She loved before she may love again. But if she loves you now, what else matters? She's not perfect - you aren't either, and the two of you may never be perfect together but if she can make you laugh, causes you to think twice, and admit to being human and making mistakes, hold onto her and give her the most you can. She may not be thinking about you every second of the day, but she will give you a part of her that she knows you can break - her heart. So don't hurt her, don't change her, don't analyse and don't expect more than she can give. Smile when she makes you happy, let her know when she makes you mad, and miss her when she's not there." 

                                                 Bob Marley

Some misconceptions about introverts

There are many misconceptions about introverts. I am here with the help of this from Pinterest to set you straight.

Number 1 misconception: Introverts don't like to chat.

This is definitely not true. Introverts won't talk unless they really want to say something. Introverts find small talk and the like quite boring and would rather talk about more substantial topics than the weather and how hot it is or what is happening on Keeping up with the Kardashians.

Number 2 misconception: Introverts are shy.

Introversion and shyness are completely different. Shyness is the fear of social judgement whereas being an introvert is about how you energise yourself and how you talk to others. Introverts won't do the old fake air kiss routine and say "oh darling you look wonderful" when they don't.

Number 3 misconception: Introverts hate people

Introverts do not have hundreds of close friends. They have a small band loyal friends who for the most part drop everything to help out their friend. My standard for a friend is that if you need their help at 3am on a cold Wednesday morning, who are you going to call? I would suggest that an introvert would have more people to call at that time than someone who has hundreds of superficial friendships.

Number 4 misconception: Introverts are rude

I'm sorry if our abrupt nature hurts your sensibilities but I am here to talk about what we came to talk about not something about your life that everyone doesn't really want to hear about but they are being "polite." So get on with it.

Is that rude? Some people probably think so. They can go and get stuffed.

Number 5 misconception: Introverted people always want to be by themselves

No, of course not. Introverts do like social interaction but usually only with ONE person at a time. This way they can be authentic. They  can be themselves and they don't have to conform to any society pressures or rules that they don't like anyway.

Number 6 misconception: Introverts are strange

Of course when you take yourself away from the herd, people are going to think you are strange. Because your way of thinking is not what everyone thinks, they are going to try to bring you down to their level which is the worst way to go about it. Introverts don't make decisions that are based on what is trendy or what is "super-cool" now. They will make their decisions based on what they think in their heart.

Number 7 misconception: Introverts don't know how to have fun.

Oh yes! The classic extrovert way of thinking. Just because the introvert won't go out and have a few beers on a Friday night or go raging on a Saturday night at the "Super -cool" (can you see a pattern?) new hot spot club in town, in the eyes of an extrovert, it means that he or she doesn't know how to enjoy him or herself.

Well, just because he or she is not out and about, it doesn't mean that he or she is not having fun. Staying at home, sitting on the couch with that special someone, watching a movie, is the introverts ultimate way to have fun. They can sit there and recharge and get ready for another week.

There you have it. Some basic misconceptions about introverts. So before you start to label people, weird or aloof or rude. Think about it from their side, maybe they are saying that for a reason.

Wednesday, 19 July 2017

If Obama and Bolt can do it, so can you

There is a famous photo that I have seen regularly over the last year or so where the former president of the United States, Barack Obama is shown greeting a janitor or maintenance guy.

You can see a copy of the photo here.

This was something that President Obama probably does hundreds of times a week but for the other guy in the photo it obviously made his day and probably his week as well.

Something as simple as a high five or hand shake is all that is required.

It reminds me of the following video from the 2012 Olympics:

The other day I moved out of the apartment that I had called home for one year. I wanted to leave the place all spick and span so spent quite a long time tidying and cleaning the place so that when the landlord came for the inspection there would be minimal things to talk about it and that turned out to be true.

Earlier in the day the staff at the building I was living in were more than eager to help me with my rubbish problems as I had a couple of things that I needed to dispose of. They couldn't have been more helpful.

Why is that?

Well, maybe it is because they are nice people and that is their job. Maybe they were bored and had nothing else to do or maybe it was because I had done something simple like say hello to them whenever I saw them or just engaged them in simple conversation from time to time.

Obviously I didn't say hello because I wanted them to help me, it is just the normal thing to do. Right?

Be nice to people and they will be nice to you. Simple!

*Just as I was about to publish this blog post, I saw something on Instagram which really sums up what I wanted to say today.

You can see the Instagram post here.

Tuesday, 18 July 2017

6 pieces of good advice from Instagram

I would like to share some interesting things that I have seen on Instagram in the last year or so. These are not so much photos of celebrities in foreign locations but of some interesting quotes and pieces of advice that you can use in your life.

I have linked the quotes to the original posts on Instagram so that you know where they came from.

1. When people ask "what do you do?" Tell them "whatever it takes."

I agree with this one to a point. Whatever it takes under the law. You don't want to to go shooting someone to prove a point or get what you want because you are going to open another can of worms.

2. My goal is to build a life and career where I'm not constantly waiting for the weekend. I don't want to live that way, where I hate five days of the week because I hate my life and job so much that the only relief I get is Saturday and Sunday. I want to enjoy my life and not wish it away every week. I want each day to matter to me, in some way, even some small way. I want to live my life, all of it, not just my life on the weekend.

Why suffer five days for two days of freedom? It just doesn't make sense. It doesn't make sense at all. When I tell people that I spent my Sunday working on my blog or other things, that don't really understand. They think that I should be out and about, playing in the sun (which I do) or watching or playing sport (which I do) or drinking heavily with mates (which I do). I like all of those things but in moderation, there are other things in my life which are more important and I like to use that time to improve myself.

3. If everyone likes you, you have a serious problem.

Even writing this I feel really bad thinking about it. However, as they say, you cant please everyone and somebody is going to take issue with you. You cant let it get to you and you should move on. I have noticed recently that someone I see on a semi-regular basis is being a bit standoffish with me. I don't know what I said but I suppose at the end of the day that is his problem and his business, not mine.

4. Don't chase people, be an example. Attract them. Work hard and be yourself. The People who belong in your life will come find you and say. Just do your thing.

All I can say about this one is "Yep." Do your thing, don't worry about other people. They have problems, you have problems, you need to look after yourself.

5. It's better to walk alone than with a crowd going in the wrong direction.

This is one of the most difficult things to do in the human race. At the beginning of time if you weren't in a group you might get eaten be a sabertooth tiger.

Fortunately in 2017, those predators are not wandering around our cities or though you could argue that there are some people who are like that. Going off on your own really does attract people who will try to bring you into their group. They will criticise you, they will make fun of you, they may even be kind of nasty, but if you have a vision, go for it. Don't worry what they say.

6. I just want to work hard, make money, eat with good people and love the same woman over and over again.

I can't argue with that one or add anything else to it. It sums it all up.

Monday, 17 July 2017


If you classify yourself as an introvert then you may struggle with change. You may not like to adjust to new things.

Introverts, generally, like routine, they like sameness and they find it (change) very, very difficult to deal with.

I know from personal experience that change can be very stressful for me and I have had times in my life where I have not exactly covered myself in glory by accepting the change.

So, what can you and I do to accept change and see it as the good thing that it is?

1. Find the good thing in the change and really concentrate on the positives. When we concentrate on the positives we look forward into the future and rather than moping around feeling sorry for ourselves we are looking at the positives and thinking about all the good, no I mean great things that are going to come with this change.

2. Set goals. So, something has changed, that's too bad, but if you sit down and have a think about it, you might be able to get something good out of it, so see what this change is going to do for your future.

One mistake I made in one of my goals was that I didn't set a date for when I want these goals to materialise. Always set a date and work your tail off to try and accomplish it.

I have had one big change in my life recently, something that I didn't really want to happen because things were going along quite well. I made a decision however, that I will use this change to go on to bigger and better things and I have set a date for it.

3. Realise that you have to face change at many times in your life and you just have to accept it and just like a swimming pool if you slowly get into the pool then it is not going to be very comfortable but if you just jump in and make a big splash then you find that it isn't that bad and you get used to the change (and the temperature of the pool) quicker.

Change is all around us. Change is inevitable. We don't want to do it but we are going to have to at some stage so you might as well make the most of it.

Sunday, 16 July 2017

Today's video: An interesting watch

A like the guy in this video. The devotion he shows, the love he shows and definitely for him it is:

"Until death do us part."

Saturday, 15 July 2017

Don't share everything.

I posted a couple of photos on Facebook today as well as Instagram. I don't go overboard, but if I see something interesting, I will take a photo and share it if I deem it worthy.

Many people do go overboard with their sharing, Sharing something every half hour or so. So much so that it becomes noise and people delete it or stop following it.

I think social media is a good place for shy and introverted people to come out of their shells and share what they think of the world. That's excellent.

Often they are able to express themselves better through the written word as opposed to talking.

However, I have also been reading that the closest couples are the ones that keep their relationships off social media. That makes sense as you do want to keep some things private and the law of averages suggest that one day you are going to share something that your partner will not approve of and bang you are in a big pile of you know what.

Be selective in what you share. Show some things but not everything. Keep some things secret and you should have a happy and fulfilling time with your significant other.