Friday, 15 December 2017

Persistent then be Consistent

Here is an interesting quote from Instagram:

"If you are persistent, you will get it. If you are consistent, you will keep it."

I forgot this recently. I would say that I was successful in the first part of the quote but I was not very successful in the second part. I was persistent in getting what I wanted but then I didn't keep it going after that.

So, I have to go back to square one which is unfortunate but I hope to come out a better man because of it.

You have got to use the pain to your advantage.

Let me say it again:

"If you are persistent, you will get it. If you are consistent, you will keep it."

Wednesday, 13 December 2017


A new phrase has come to my attention recently, 'Revenge Body.' "What is Revenge Body?" I hear you ask. Well let me try to explain it to you using urban dictionary:

When you break up with someone, usually a cheating piece of shit who really wasn't worth your time and you work your ass off to look the best you can just to piss him/her off and make them regret their poor choices.

I couldn't have said it better myself.

Apparently, there is even a TV show starring Khloe Kardashian called 'Revenge Body.' In which two people per episode go through a makeover, both in the body and their mind.

Although the video above has a guy in it, I believe that the revenge body is primarily for women who are trying to get 'revenge' on their ex-boyfriends.

Although, in saying that, I don't believe that it is revenge at all and it is a little misleading calling it that. In get into that a bit later.

I believe the male equivalent for this is the following. Have a look at this video and have think about what it is trying to say:

What did you think?

Was she a gold digger?

I don't think so even though she portrayed herself to be with telling him her husband's salary. I don't think it would be fair to call her that.

She was trying to get him to become the best version of himself which in the end he did and did she regret it? Probably, but the other guy was looking after her well anyway so I'm sure she was happy.

So did that guy get revenge on the woman?

I don't think so, he just took the pain that he was feeling, and it was obvious that he was feeling it for a long time and used it as energy to make him the best he can be.

Did the women get revenge on their ex-boyfriends by losing a whole bunch of weight. I don't think so. They just used that to energise themselves and become the best people they could be. I applaud them all for that.

In the video of the man meeting his love after a long time, it says:

The Best Revenge ever is Success.

Love for Someone's Heart, not their things. A Good Heart is Bigger than Anything.

I'm sure the man would have achieved success if the woman had stuck with him, but she chose things over her heart and at the end of the day, that is her prerogative.

I just wonder what happened after that? We may never know.

Tuesday, 12 December 2017

Quote of the Day - December 12th, 2017

Here is a good quote  I saw the other day:

"Don't attempt to reconnect with toxic people from your past just because you're feeling lonely. Focus on getting better and attracting better."

I have fallen into this trap a few times over the years. I have learnt to concentrate on myself and then you will start to attract the things and the people that are supposed to be in your life.

Monday, 11 December 2017


I was told yesterday that I should drink coffee. When I asked why that was the case, I was told it is a good social thing to do because when you go to someone's house they will invariably ask you if you want a coffee.

So what?

What is the difference between not wanting to drink alcohol and not wanting to drink coffee?

In one word: Nothing.

Why should I be pressured to drink coffee when, for two reasons: I don't like the flavour of coffee and  I really struggle with hot drinks. I find that my mouth is pretty sensitive and it burns quite easily so I would rather drink something cold.

It is so ingrained in a lot of people to offer tea or coffee that when you ask for something cold it almost comes as an inconvenience to people.

I guess the moral of this post is to not be pressured into doing anything that you don't want to do. Why should you drink coffee because it is the thing to do or it is the social thing to do?

If people pressured you into doing it, run the other way, very quickly.

Sunday, 10 December 2017


This is advice for men, so if the woman out there are reading this, let me save you a few minutes.

Here are four things that I have found are beneficial for you as a man. I have tried them or am trying to incorporate these things in my life. Why don't you try it too?

1. Stop drinking

Hands up if you go out on a Friday night or Saturday night just because it is Friday night or Saturday night. I'm guessing quite a few of you. Why? Why do you have to get in the habit of drinking? Do you really need it? And before you extroverts say that you need to be social. That is ridiculous. You don't need it to be social. There are tons and tons of stuff you can do that doesn't require drinking. I know I am going to lose some readers because of that but it is the truth.

Stop drinking. You will feel better because of it and hey, you might even lose some weight, which is good, isn't it?

2. Exercise

Go to the gym. That's all. Lift weights. It makes you feel very good. End of story. You build muscle, lose fat, probably make some new friends because they are there for the same reason as you

By the way, it doesn't have to be Crossfit because I do it. It can be anything. Just get out and get moving.

3. Cut out the porn

Ladies, if you are still reading, if your man says to you that he has never watched porn on the internet, he is probably lying to you.

Porn is everywhere on the internet and you don't have to look particularly hard to find it.

Lets put it simply, porn stuffs up your sex life. Now, if that is not going to stop you doing it then I don't know what will.

4. Sleep more

I'm finding that when you stop drinking and you exercise more and you don't watch porn, guess what, you have more time for sleep and because you have worked your ass off at the gym you are basically asleep as your head hits the pillow. It is a great feeling when you wake up (early) in the morning all ready to fight another day.

We all can make the future better. Also, don't do as I would do in the past by saying that you will start in the new year. Why? Why can't you start now? There is nothing wrong with the present.

Saturday, 9 December 2017

Will shopping offline die out?

Will going out to shop ever go out of fashion?

Some people love shopping, they seem to live for it. Every weekend they will go out to the mall and really give their credit card or cards a thorough workout.

In the last 20 years though a new phenomenon has come about, the online shopping mall has taken over. Hands up who has ever used Amazon. It looks like quite a few of you. You can buy anything on Amazon. I remember looking for L&P on Amazon Japan. The charge for postage was astronomical but it was there.

In the next few months, Amazon is going to set up shop in Australia. Brick and mortar shops in New Zealand are understandably quite nervous. How is this online giant going to affect the industry in New Zealand?

The answer to that question is that I don't know.

What I think will happen is that going to the shops in my opinion is never going to die out. I for one want to try on my clothes before buying them.

Also I think the social aspect of shopping will never die out. People go along to the shops to see their friends. A real social occasion. As the first part of the video below shows.

Don't worry people, shopping is not going to be just an online thing, shops and malls will always be there, it is just you have more of a choice.

Thursday, 7 December 2017

Some interesting quotes for the day

I saw this quote today, what do you make of it? Is it true?

"When someone makes you the happiest person and the saddest person, at the same time, that's when it's real. That's when it's worth something."

I think the following is a bit more self-explanatory:

"I love you. You don't have to love me back, but I'm gonna give you my heart anyways."