Tuesday, 22 May 2018

IS THIS AN INTROVERTED JOB?

I read a profile the other day about business consultant, Ram Charan. What I read I had to take with a grain a salt. Well, not really a grain of salt, more like the whole salt shaker. Anyway, it said that he doesn't have a house, basically he lives in airports and hotels. That could be possible I suppose but it also says that he travels 250,000 miles a week. That's where you have to be careful about what you read. So basically he travels 10 times around the world every week and if there is 168 hours in a week and he travels 250,000 miles then he is travelling 1500 miles every hour which you have probably worked out already is impossible. I think that that was a typo and it was 250,000 miles a year.

After reading this short little profile, it reminded me of this movie:



Have you seen this one? It is a George Clooney movie from 2009 called 'Up in the Air.' George Clooney plays a guy who works for a HR consultancy in Omaha, Nebraska. He basically travels all over the United States of America firing people for a living.

In the movie George Clooney's character "lives" in Omaha but he says that he spent only 43 days there in the previous year. So he was on the road for 323 days (I think it was a leap year) living in hotels, travelling first class and enjoying the hospitality of the airport lounges.

What do you think? Could you live this kind of lifestyle? Travelling from city to city, not being in the same city two days in a row. Not really developing relationships and being by yourself everyday and every night.

This sounds like introvert heaven, doesn't it? Well, yes and no. If you are someone who doesn't want to develop meaningful relationships then that kind of lifestyle is definitely for you, however I believe that most people do, so maybe this kind of life is better for an extrovert who can probably strike up conversations with people around them and find things to do.

How you deal with lonesomeness is the key to this kind of lifestyle and an introverted person could easily lock themselves away and not talk to anyone outside their work related activities and that could be a disastrous thing for him or her.

Please remember that for introverts it isn't all about being being alone. It isn't all about being at home by him or herself watching a movie on Netflix. Introverts still like the idea of being with their significant other. They still want to spend time with him or her either talking or eating or even just being.

I must admit though that the traveling lifestyle does have some appeal to me and I wonder how long I would last before I go crazy. I do enjoy some of my routine like going to the gym and visiting the same places for socialising. Hmmm, something to think about it.

If you have a chance, have a look at this movie and see how it applies to you and your circumstances.

Sunday, 20 May 2018

GIVE AN INTROVERT A FEW DAYS TO PROCESS YOUR REQUEST

I saw the following meme the other day:

https://me.me/i/when-someone-asks-to-go-out-the-night-of-without-17536566

It shows a lady who looks pretty indignant and the caption is:

"When someone asks to go out the night of, without allowing 3 business days for mental preparation."

That begs the question, why are introverts not very spontaneous?

Well, it says it all in the meme, we do need preparation time. We need time to psyche ourselves up because, please remember that you are taking us out of our natural environment. You know, at home either by ourselves or with our significant others, cooking dinner, sleeping or even netflixing and chilling.

Believe it or not when an introvert says they are doing nothing, it means that that is what they have planned and they have been looking forward to it all day and possibly all week. So, when you suddenly ask an introvert out, they are going to have trouble with that. They are simply not prepared. I'm not joking when I say that.

If you recognise your friend as an introvert, allow them a few days to process your request and don't take it personally if they say "no."

Remember that they will go. They like going out as much as you do, just not as often.

But, dear extroverts, do not, let me repeat that, do not make them feeling guilty for turning down your request. They are not doing it to be anti-social. They are not doing it because they don't like you. They are doing (or not doing it) it because they, for that moment in time are being true to themselves. Let that introvert be. Just let them be what they are.

Saturday, 19 May 2018

Are you 9 to 5?

Regular readers will notice that I haven't posted anything for a few days. I apologise for that. Lets just say that I have been a little lazy.

They say that success happens outside the hours of 9am to 5pm. They say that what you do outside of those hours will go long way to how much money you will have in your life and how much success will come your way.

The past week I have been working from 9am to 6.30pm and basically talking for that entire time. As you can probably imagine, by the time I get back to my hotel I am absolutely knackered that all I can do is get something to eat, maybe watch a movie and fall asleep to do it all over again the next day.

I have neglected this blog and I have neglected other things that I like to do on a daily basis and as far as I am concerned, it is not good enough.

We know that a lot of people work their 9 to 5. They go home. They eat dinner. They watch television until they can't hold their eyes open anymore and they go to sleep and wake and do it again.

That kind of lifestyle is not good enough for me. I don't think it is good enough for anyone.

Maybe you can't burn the candle at both ends but you should be able to pick a time, either before work or after work to work on yourself. To write that blog post, to do those push ups, to do that meditation, to visualise your future, to chant your affirmations, to write a journal, to work on your side business that you want to take full time in the near future.

Don't waste your time. Treasure it. It is precious. We only have a finite amount of time on this planet. Do as you wish but make it valuable. Make it noteworthy.

MAKE IT GREAT!!!


Monday, 14 May 2018

Another Introvert 101

Just because an introvert likes to be alone it doesn't mean that he or she wants to be alone all the time.

Introverts like to be intimate with their significant other. They like to spend quality time with he or she.

So, just because the introvert doesn't want to go out with you on a Friday night doesn't mean they are being anti-social, it just means that they are conserving their energy and they might be ready the next time so don't stop asking them.

Friday, 11 May 2018

Are people who are not on social media, weirdos?

I read this article today. I found it very interesting especially the "being relevant" part.

This article  was written by a 17 year old and without trying to sound condescending, it shows maturity way beyond his years. Lets just say that I wish that I had that kind of maturity when I was 17.

Basically the article is about the young man deleting all of his social media. Whether he deleted the app from his phone or he deleted all of his accounts, outright, I am not sure but in 2018 I believe that kind of action shows a lot of balls.

He says that his "friends" look at him as a loser and that he is weird because he has decided to break away from the herd and not do what everyone else is doing.

This reminds me of a quote. I've seen it attributed to Jim Carrey but I'm not 100% sure:

"I saw a guy at Starbucks today. He had no smartphone, tablet, or laptop. He just sat there drinking his coffee. Like a psychopath."

I know that this quote is taking the mickey about people like that and I know that I am one of those kind of people. I can't just sit there and enjoy my coffee or whatever I am drinking. I have to be always connected.

This begs the question, why do we always have to know what our friends have had for breakfast or what cocktails they consumed the day before? (Instagram)

We waste a lot of time on social media when we don't need to. We really need to get out and meet people in the real world.

What is that people say and joke about? They only post things that show them in the best light. They never post photos of them sitting in a mess on the bedroom floor.

Don't hide behind your screen thinking that you are being social. Guess what? You are not being social. Get up! Get outside! Hell! Get laid even (if you are that way inclined).

Just in case you are wondering, I have now deleted Facebook, Instagram and Twitter from my phone. I haven't deleted the accounts. I can still access them on my laptop. It just means that I can focus on other things when I am sitting on the train, maybe even talk to someone sitting next to me. (They might think I am weird but who cares? That is their thinking, not mine.)

Wednesday, 9 May 2018

IS IT PATRIOTISM OR IS IT HATRED? 愛国心?嫌外国心?

Recently in the rugby union world one of the big stories in Australasia at least is of the off-field sort which has caused a lot of controversy.

Israel Folau is a star in three different types of football in Australia, rugby union, rugby league and AFL (Aussie Rules).


He has just recently married one of the stars of New Zealand sport, Maria Tuta'ia.


A few weeks ago, lets say that Israel Folau "divided" opinion by saying that he believed that gay people should go to hell. He suggested because of his christian upbringing that he was taught to think like that.

This divided opinion in that some believed he had the right to express any opinion because he lives in Australia which has free speech while others suggested that it was hate speech and that people who are gay are not gay by choice. You can't control who you are attracted to.

For the record, I am with the side of people who support the gay community as I realise that it is out of the individual's control but I don't believe that it is hate speech. I just think that Folau is a little misguided and should listen to Sir Michael Jones.


I live in Tokyo, Japan and it seems every Sunday I get woken up by "protests" by right wing nationalists. I used to live next to the Russian embassy and now I live next door to the American embassy and as you may expect, those two countries are targets of the right wingers.

I don't have a problem with the person's right to protest, in fact in some cases I wish that both New Zealand and Japan would do it more, like the French. It seems that French people protest at a drop of a hat or am I just stereotyping?

The problem I have with these right wingers is their aggressive hatred of the foreign countries especially China, North and South Korea, Russia and America.

As I said, I have no problem with protesting but when it comes to hatred, that is where I draw the line.



The Japanese word for patriotism is 愛国心 (aikokushin). Lets have a closer look at these characters. The first character () means love. The second character () means country while the last character, () means heart or spirit. So patriotism in Japanese literally means the spirit of love for one's country.

Lets look at this word again, LOVE, COUNTRY etc. Why does patriotism mean to most people to hate other countries? Why have these people turn this around? I don't get it. It is not 嫌外国心(hate foreign country spirit. This is a word that I made up.). It is 愛国心. By all means promote and love the things that make this country great, but what is the point in abusing and yelling and waking us all up under the ruse of 愛国心?

It is all very well having your own opinions and that is great but if you are going to spread hate because of it, that is ridiculous

Don't hide behind the Bible or don't hide behind patriotism. As Sir Michael Jones said look at it through love and respect and guess what, you will get love and respect back。

Tuesday, 8 May 2018

F**K IT: LETS DO IT

Have you ever had that "fuck it" moment?

Have you ever had that time in your life when you thought "I'm sick of this shit"?

Have you ever thought to yourself that this whole things "sucks"?

Let me ask you, what did you do about it?


Did you just get stuck in?

Did you, as the logo above suggests "just do it"?

So are you having/had that "fuck this shit" moment?

What are you going to do?