Sunday 2 April 2017

Introverts: You will understand these - Part 3

This was interesting on Instagram.

The 21 things that only introverts will understand. I'll spend a few days going through them and maybe explaining them to you from my experience. The passages in bold are from the Instagram post:

7. When you go to a party and end up spending the whole night talking to the one person who you feel comfortable being around. 

Yep. Being there done that. Sometimes it is the best way, especially if you are talking with someone who is also not that comfortable in a big group situation and you have some kind of common, shared interest.

I remember I was at an event and I met someone who I had played cricket against a few years earlier. We spent the rest of the night talking about cricket. I could tell that he wasn't that interested in being there. He was just there because of his wife who I met later. She was obviously the social butterfly of the pair as she had met the whole room basically.

Whatever gets you through the night, right?


8. When you're at a party and say, "I'm getting really tired, so I'm going home." You are not actually sleepy, you're just tired of being around people. You go home and stay awake for three more hours, checking Facebook, watching YouTube videos, or reading.

You need to know when to eject and their are ways to do it. The extroverts at the party will try to make you stay because to them the more the merrier. You have to be strong. Make up some kind of an excuse like you have to get up early the next morning and leave. Don't hang around.

After five minutes of you leaving, they are going to forget you were there anyway. You could explain to them that your social batteries are running low but that will go over the heads of most extroverts and they will think you are being anti-social when in fact, you sticking around at the party would mean that you are anti-social because you will become more and more tired and you will get that dreaded question, "what's wrong with you?"


9. When you're having trouble explaining your thoughts or feelings. Everything makes so much sense in your head, but it never comes out eloquently as it seemed in your mind. Other people are like, "Come on, spit it out, what's the problem?"

Yep, this is another situation I have encountered on a number of occasions. I assure you, it does sound a lot better in your head but all of those wonderful thoughts and ideas all try and rush out of your mouth at the same time and it can get you all tongue tied and it just all turns to custard unfortunately. Of course it doesn't help at all that these stupid people are standing over you telling you to spit it out. Do you think maybe that is what we are trying to do?

It reminds of this scene from the movie School Ties. The student was trying to get it out and the teacher was being an asshole in my opinion. Rather than encouraging the student he was was being overbearing and the student couldn't handle it. Not good.


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