DON'T EXPECT THE PERSON TO BE SOMEONE THEY ARE NOT

Here is an interesting quote from Horacio Jones:

"Be with someone who wants to understand who you are and why, instead of someone who wants to change you into someone you are not, just so THEY can be happy."- Horacio Jones

I'm going to contradict myself today.

There is no doubt that we live in an extroverted world and there are certainly advantages to being outgoing and sociable. However, if this is not how you "roll", it an be quite difficult.

I suggest that in some situations it is preferable "to come out of your shell" in order to get things that you want.

BUT,

Don't expect people to act like you want them to act. They are going to act congruent with who they are not who you want them to be.

If they do try to act in the way that you want them to be, neither of you are going to be satisfied. They are going to be dissatisfied because they are not being themselves and you are going to be dissatisfied as well because they are not being authentic and you probably can see that a mile away.

So, what is the advice today?

Be yourself 99% of the time except the time when you need to step out a bit, especially in your work and business.

Around people you know well, don't be someone that you are not. They are going to pick it up very quickly.

Don't try to change someone to make you happy.

If you feel like you are being changed, walk away. Walk as far away as possible. This will help your sanity as well as the other person's sanity.

Which photo is the true me?

You decide.

There is a correct answer.